Relationship falters through mutual bad behavior
Dear Amy: My girlfriend and I had a falling out last month. She told me that she didn't like the fact that I didn't seem appreciative of her and that I wasn't being a "man."
I was between jobs, and it was hard to find something that fit me, so money was a problem and I couldn't provide. This made me a tad depressed because I was not fulfilling my duties.
When we broke up, the main reason was because she caught me texting other women and asking them about having sexual relations.
We finally decided to talk about it, and she let me know that she had a one-night stand last weekend, after getting drunk.
She won't apologize for it. Honestly, all I really ask for is an apology.
Is it my fault that she has done that? Should I just get over it because I sort of did the same thing?
Should I try to work things out with her?
-- Heartsick
Dear Heartsick: The way you two are both behaving is what happens when people don't grow up, but merely grow older. It's like you are flailing around, acting out all of your worst ideas. And then you wonder why your life is so messy.
Your job is not to provide for your girlfriend (unless you two have a child together).
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