Grandma worries grandson looks like a granddaughter
DEAR AMY: My youngest grandson, "Jamie," is 3 years old. He and his family live out of state, so we only see him two or three times a year. Jamie wears jeans and T-shirts mostly, but his parents have let his hair grow to below shoulder length.
People see him and say, "What a cute little girl." His hair is thick, blond and wavy, so Jamie does look like a cute girl.
Jamie gets upset when people think he's a girl. His parents tell him that people think anyone with long hair is a girl. His mom wants to save his curls because his hair really is beautiful.
I suggested that his mom cut a lock of hair to save and then get him a boy's haircut at the barber shop.
With all the talk of transgender kiddies, this could be rough on little Jamie. Being a kid and fitting in is hard enough, but I don't think they care if Jamie is "different." Should I butt out or should I go to bat for sweet Jamie? -- Loving Grandmom
DEAR GRANDMOM: "Jamie's" parents shouldn't care if he is "different." And in this day and age, you would have to ask yourself, "Different from what?"
There is no one way to be. If this child doesn't like his hair long, I suggest his parents hide the scissors, because there isn't a 3 or 4 year old in the world who hasn't enjoyed giving him/herself that first lopsided haircut.
You've already expressed yourself. Now you should stay out of it.
DEAR AMY: A few weeks ago I met a wonderful, divorced father of two. We were on the same flight back to our home state after spending the Thanksgiving holiday with our parents, who happen to live a few miles apart.
The connection was very brief but instant -- from when our eyes met. We exchanged numbers and never stopped speaking or seeing each other for a month.
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