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Will My Fiance Ever Stop Drinking?

By Billy Graham, Tribune Media Services

Q: My fiance admits he drinks too much sometimes but promises he'll stop once we get married. My parents say he's lying and I'm a fool to believe him, but I can't bear the thought of living without him the rest of my life. Who is right? - D.G.

A: Your fiance may sincerely plan to stop drinking once you are married - but almost every week I get at least one letter from someone who found they (or their spouse) couldn't keep this promise. If he won't (or can't) stop now, what reason will he have to stop once you are married?

In other words, the time to confront this problem is now, not later. If you and your fiance fail to do this, you'll only be opening the door to more serious problems later on. The Bible says, "Wine is a mocker and beer a brawler; whoever is led astray by them is not wise" (Proverbs 20:1). Almost nothing destroys a marriage or a family more quickly than alcohol, and it would be foolish for you to think otherwise.

Urge your fiance to ask himself why he turns to alcohol. Is he hoping it will help him deal with stress or pressure? Is he trying to escape from some problem or fear? Is he simply giving in to the pressures of the crowd? Whatever the reason, he needs to face it and deal with it. If he needs help, your pastor or doctor will know what resources are available in your community.

The most important thing you can do, however, is commit your life - and your future - to Jesus Christ. God loves you, and He knows what is best for you. Put Christ at the center of your life, and seek His will for your future - including your marriage.

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Send your queries to "My Answer," c/o Billy Graham, Billy Graham Evangelistic Association, 1 Billy Graham Parkway, Charlotte, N.C., 28201; call 1-(877) 2-GRAHAM, or visit the Web site for the Billy Graham Evangelistic Association: www.billygraham.org.

(c)2008 BILLY GRAHAM DISTRIBUTED BY TRIBUNE MEDIA SERVICES, INC.

This news arrived on: 10/16/2009

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