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How Can I Forgive My Unfaithful Husband?
By Billy Graham, Tribune Media Services
Q: My ex-husband's unfaithfulness hurt me very much, and the pain is
still very real, although it happened years ago. My aunt tells I need
to "forgive and forget" -- but how can I, even as a Christian? Is it
really possible? -- B.R.
A: I doubt if it's really possible to "forgive and forget" when someone has hurt us very deeply -- apart from God's help. But with His help it is possible -- as I hope you will discover.
Why do I say this? The reason is because hurts like this, if they aren't dealt with, become a fertile soil for all kinds of poisonous fruits -- things like anger, bitterness, envy, resentment, despair and hatred. And when they do, they turn us into unhappy, unpleasant, joyless people. No wonder the Bible commands us to "Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice" (Ephesians 4:31).
What must you do? First, remember how generously Christ forgave you.
You hurt God far more than anyone has ever hurt you -- and yet He willingly sent His Son to die in your place so your sins could be forgiven. Not only that, but the Bible says God will remember them no more (see Hebrews 10:17). Never forget how much it cost Christ to forgive you. The Bible says, "Forgive as the Lord forgave you" (Colossians 3:13).
Second, pray that you may begin to see your ex-husband through God's eyes. God doesn't approve of what he did -- not at all. But God still loves him, and Christ died for him -- just as He did for you. Don't hold onto your hurts any longer, but turn them over to Christ and ask Him to help you forgive -- and even forget.
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This news arrived on: 09/27/2008
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09-27-2008 17:55
Kay Akharume wrote:
How Can I Forgive My Unfaithful Husband
Well this is a very period in your life b'cos it's such a painful thing for husband to cheat and break the vows of marriage, but the bible said that we can do all things thru Christ Jesus Who strentens us.
Secondly, as a Christian, the imporance of foriveness cannot be lost on us, in our Lord's prayer we ask God th forgive as we forgive those who offend us, so put your trust in God and it will become easier to forgive, always ask yourself what would Jesus do if in your situation.
Finally, from your Letter you are stil hurting, if for your sake and peace of mind, pls forgive and release you both. May God meet you half way as you try.
Secondly, as a Christian, the imporance of foriveness cannot be lost on us, in our Lord's prayer we ask God th forgive as we forgive those who offend us, so put your trust in God and it will become easier to forgive, always ask yourself what would Jesus do if in your situation.
Finally, from your Letter you are stil hurting, if for your sake and peace of mind, pls forgive and release you both. May God meet you half way as you try.
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